“We Never Learned How to Talk About Money” – Why It’s Not Your Fault

You’re planning a life together. But every time money comes up… it feels like a fight waiting to happen.

You're not alone. So many couples walk into love with the best intentions—and a lifetime of unspoken money beliefs, family patterns, and quiet fears.

Maybe you’ve said things like:

“I just want to feel safe, but I don’t want to seem controlling.”

“We earn differently, and I’m scared that’ll become a power thing.”

“I hate conflict, so I avoid the money talk—and then feel guilty.”

Sound familiar?

The truth is: most of us were never taught how to talk about money in relationships. We picked up scripts from our parents, our culture, or survival. But no one gave us a playbook for financial intimacy.

Why Love Isn’t Enough When It Comes to Money

Love creates the foundation. But communication—especially around sensitive topics like finances—is the architecture that holds the relationship up over time.

Without shared language around:

Saving vs. spending styles

Financial priorities (kids? house? travel?)

What “security” really means to each of you…

Even the most loving couples can find themselves arguing, avoiding, or drifting apart financially.

Here’s the Good News: You Can Learn How to Talk About Money

Financial therapy isn’t about budgets and spreadsheets. It’s about:

• Understanding your partner’s money story (and your own)

• Creating shared financial values

• Learning how to have emotionally safe money conversations

• Building trust, instead of tension

  
  

  Unlike conventional couples therapy or relationship counselling which often focuses on emotional patterns, communication styles, or past trauma premarital financial therapy zeroes in on the money dynamics shaping your relationship right now. 

  
  

  It’s a specialised approach that blends the emotional depth of therapy with the practical tools of financial coaching. Instead of dancing around money conflicts, we tackle them head-on with empathy, not judgment. Whether you're navigating different spending habits, income imbalances, or future financial goals, financial therapy helps you build trust, improve communication, and align your values so money becomes a bridge, not a barrier.

  
  

Let’s Make Talking About Money Feel Safer.

Whether you're getting married, moving in together, or just want a stronger foundation, you deserve to feel connected—not conflicted—when it comes to money.

If this spoke to you, I invite you to:

Book a free clarity call—no pressure, just a chance to explore

OR

Schedule your first session here  we can talk more deeply about you and your needs

Because your future deserves more than silent resentment or repeat arguments. It deserves understanding, alignment, and peace.

P.S. You’re not behind. You’re just the first one in your family to do this differently.